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Practical Strategies To A Strong Self-Esteem

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The greatest place to be in life is to have peace inside and be content with who you are. Finding out your great worth and realizing there is not another YOU, is such a freeing discovery.

Embracing your uniqueness, rather than focusing on your flaws can set you on a course for positive living. Not liking who you are and always comparing yourself to others is a miserable way to live. Of course we all have areas in our lives we need to refine and work on, but like yourself in the process and don’t be so hard on yourself.

You know, God made you exactly the way He wanted you to be and likes you just the way you are…actually, He loves you just the way you are! My favorite scripture is Psalm 139:13-14 (NLT), “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.” How can you not feel special after reading that?! There’s no one like you — you are one of a kind! You are marvelously made! I heard someone once say, “God don’t make no junk!” You are valuable and need to grab hold of that truth, because the truth will set you free!

Become aware of the way you think and speak about yourself, and if it’s not kind…change it. If you are struggling with poor self-image, like I did for many years, begin to speak positive affirmations over your life. You believe your words more than any other person, so I encourage you to make a list of all your good traits, strengths, abilities, and talents and go over them:

“I am beautiful.” “I am smart.” “I am caring.” “I am strong.” “I am a hard worker.” And the list goes on and on.

Whatever negative words have been spoken over you by others or yourself, release them and let them go today – never to have a hold on you again!

Be free to be you and be happy being you! When you’re content and at peace with who you are, others are drawn to you. No one wants to be around someone who is negative and constantly down on themselves. Be a light wherever you go…people follow light!

I encourage you to go look in the mirror today and say, “YOU ARE AWESOME and I LOVE YOU!” You may feel silly doing it, but mean it when you say it…and smile!

There’s a whole world out there waiting for your greatness — now go shine!

Simple Tips To A Stronger Self-esteem

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The greatest place to be in life is to have peace inside and be content with who you are. Finding out your great worth and realizing there is not another YOU, is such a freeing discovery.

Embracing your uniqueness, rather than focusing on your flaws can set you on a course for positive living. Not liking who you are and always comparing yourself to others is a miserable way to live. Of course we all have areas in our lives we need to refine and work on, but like yourself in the process and don’t be so hard on yourself.

You know, God made you exactly the way He wanted you to be and likes you just the way you are…actually, He loves you just the way you are! My favorite scripture is Psalm 139:13-14 (NLT), “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.” How can you not feel special after reading that?! There’s no one like you — you are one of a kind! You are marvelously made! I heard someone once say, “God don’t make no junk!” You are valuable and need to grab hold of that truth, because the truth will set you free!

Become aware of the way you think and speak about yourself, and if it’s not kind…change it. If you are struggling with poor self-image, like I did for many years, begin to speak positive affirmations over your life. You believe your words more than any other person, so I encourage you to make a list of all your good traits, strengths, abilities, and talents and go over them:

“I am beautiful.” “I am smart.” “I am caring.” “I am strong.” “I am a hard worker.” And the list goes on and on.

Whatever negative words have been spoken over you by others or yourself, release them and let them go today – never to have a hold on you again!

Be free to be you and be happy being you! When you’re content and at peace with who you are, others are drawn to you. No one wants to be around someone who is negative and constantly down on themselves. Be a light wherever you go…people follow light!

I encourage you to go look in the mirror today and say, “YOU ARE AWESOME and I LOVE YOU!” You may feel silly doing it, but mean it when you say it…and smile!

There’s a whole world out there waiting for your greatness — now go shine!

2 Simple Tips That Can Change Your Life

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There are times in life when a seemingly perfect opportunity presents itself and it is not even perceived as an opportunity until it is long gone.

You may have heard people say:   “Once  the right opportunity to present itself and I will return to college or start a business.

Should we really wait for opportunities?

This may be a coincidence but opportunities seem to present itself to people who are actively doing something not those waiting.

Have you been waiting for your life to change? For an amazing door of opportunity to open?

Stop waiting, start doing something to create the future you desire today. These two tips will change your life if you take it seriously.

 

1. Change the way you think

“if you think you can or  you can’t…you are right” – Henry Ford

It all starts with your perceptions, think possibilities, see possibilities. You will change what happens around you by changing how you think.

Think about this scenario:

A young man, Shawn, who dropped out of high school seven years ago,  recently got laid off his job. He has no technical skills whatsoever, and has had difficulty getting jobs from time to time. He is tired of looking for jobs almost every 8 months but does not know what to do.

Shawn can sit down and think about all the frustrations in his life right now and the ones he endured in the past.

He could even take it further by looking for people in his life that could be held responsible for his current predicament.

This thought pattern may lead to bitterness and resentment among other things. One thing is certain, this thought pattern will not lead him out of his current predicament.

Alternatively, he can decide to think of the possibility of a bright future, not limited by his past pain or misfortune but shaped by his determination to succeed.

Taking responsibility for his life and determined to make a change, he can start engaging in activities that will add value to him.  Map out a strategy to the future he desires and work hard towards it

Taking the right steps out of the problem starts by changing the way you think. Thinking more about what can be done with what you have rather than focus on what was done or not done in the past.

2. Change what you say

As simple as this sounds, it is very powerful. Our words create our reality. Instead of speaking defeating words that will dampen your morale, stand up and declare what you desire for your life! These positive declarations will energize you and beyond that shape your future.

What opportunities do you desire? Start creating those opportunities today by changing the way you think about the situation and what you say about it.

 

While these two tips are important, it does not stop there. Work hard to create the future you desire, persevere in the face of difficulty and watch your dream come true.

 

How To Truly Love Yourself

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There is nothing more beautiful than feeling comfortable in your own skin.

Truly loving the person you are.

There is something unique and special about you.

There is something valuable about you that the world is eager to discover.

Loving yourself does not mean you are selfish. Not at all.

It simply means you are absolutely confident and secure in who you are

Being confident in yourself is empowering, you can help people around you.

You can spread your wings out like the eagle and soar. You can, because you believe you can.

If you are wondering how you can develop this level of confidence, here are a few tips

1. Deal with the insecurity:

So many times people simply think poorly of themselves.

Sometimes this sense of insecurity or low self-esteem develop at a very young age.

I remember reading a story of a young lady who for many years thought so poorly of herself.

She recounts that while she was in elementary school people made fun of her because she had freckles on her skin.

She said she really hated recess growing up and dreaded going to the playground. Long after that phase of her life was over with she realized low self-esteem still persisted.

She actually thought it was normal to feel that way about herself until she attended a life changing conference. She identified her problem and started her journey to building herself up.

No matter what may have caused your insecurity problems, the way you feel about yourself can change.

The first step is identifying where you are and what you are dealing with.

So many times I hear people complain about their weight. If you do not like your weight you can change that. I remember gaining some weight after having my first son, the weight did not fall off as quickly as I wanted .

My dresses did not fit as nicely as they used to and I was determined to change that. Of course I could sit around and complain about it or accept it as my new look.  Instead I chose to do something about it.

I took long walks, and doubled up on my work out. First thing in the morning and last thing at night I worked on my abs. All those activities paid off because not only did the pounds fall off but I got my body tone back. I still maintain my routine.

I said all that to say that, you can work to change what you do not like or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

It is also very important to focus on the positive.

People sometime make you focus on a flaw, once your attention is drawn to it, it is the only thing you see.

You think about it, you talk about it, it is simply the main thing.  What will happen if you focus your thoughts on your strengths ?

The way you see yourself  will change.

Acknowledge your gifts and strengths.

When people admire those unique qualities you possess, don’t brush it off, accept it and be thankful for it.

Change the way you see yourself. Start seeing yourself confident and successful. Let your words agree with what you see. Declare success.

2. Invest in yourself:

Create new habits that help you discover and maximize your potential.

Reading books or listening to audio books that are motivational and inspiring is a good place to start.

Think about this: can I carry the same weights body builders carry? No! Why? They have more muscles than me? No, they do not but they have trained their muscles to carry such heavy weights over time, while I have not. If I want to carry weights like they do I have to train myself to do so, I have the potential to do the same but I have to work on myself to maximize my potential.

This simple principle apply in every area of life, start investing in yourself today, you will be amazed to realize how much you have in you.

Simple changes in your routine will move you from where you are to where you want to be.

Invest in the whole you, your spirit, soul and body. Not just one or two of them, all three.

You can truly love yourself. Start the journey today!

Photo credit: BN Singh