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4 Important Tips For Understanding People

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We all have those people in our lives. The ones who are just really difficult to love. They might have an annoying habit that grates our nerves. Or maybe they have a negative attitude all the time, or are never respectful of our time or space. Whatever reason you have for considering that person difficult, here are a few tips on how to love them anyway.

Remember your own faults

None of us like to admit that we are probably difficult to love in some way. Maybe we have our own annoying habits that gets on other people’s nerves. We all have our “unloveable ” moments, so when you are in that situation with your difficult person, take a breath and remember that you have your own moments of difficulty.

Try to understand their back story

Everyone has a back story, no one became who they are today overnight. If your difficult person isn’t all that close to you, try to find out where they come from. Did they have a difficult childhood? Did they just go through a painful divorce? Do they suffer from a mental health condition? Knowing more about what you are dealing with can help you navigate the best way to love that person, through the difficulty.

Speak up

Sometimes people do things that annoy us, and they never know about it, because we are too polite to say anything. If someone is doing something that is disrespectful or annoying, say something. It doesn’t have to be a fight, you can lovingly say “Listen, I love spending time with you, and I need you to know that when you do ______________ (insert annoying thing here) it really makes me feel disrespected”.

Make a choice

This sounds so simple, but often we don’t make the choice to love someone. We let them earn love, by being beneficial to us in some way, however love shouldn’t have to be earned. It is a gift best freely given. So in those moments of difficulty, take a moment and decide to love them anyway. Think about it, you want to be loved through your difficulty, so choose to love your difficult person through all the mess.

Can Love Really Last A Lifetime?

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A friend told me he went to buy a tuxedo in Manhattan, New York a few years ago.

The shopkeeper asked what occasion he was shopping for. He mentioned that he was shopping for his wedding.

The man replied ” Do people still get married these days?”

Just like that man asked that question, many people wonder ” Can love really last a lifetime?’

Some even ask, ” Can I really find true love?”

My answer to both questions is  Yes!

You can find true love and love can last for a lifetime, if built on the right foundation.

Wondering how?

While there are many ways people approach this subject.

I choose to talk about the most fundamental approach.

One thing I have realized in my personal life and the lives of people I have had the opportunity to work with is that love flourishes when built on the right foundation.

The strongest foundation anyone can have is knowing the epitome of love. He embodies love, helps you to accept and love yourself the way you are as you journey to where you want to be.

Accepting love from anyone is only possible when you are in a secure place yourself.

If you are wondering who is the epitome of love? He is God’s son Jesus.

He can heal your pain of past hurt.

He can help you to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are

He can guide you to make the best relationship choice.

Life happens and when it does, He gives you the wisdom to navigate the challenges.

Wondering how to embrace God’s love?

It comes by saying a simple prayer and asking him to come into your heart.

The journey to a great relationship starts with you.

See yourself capable of loving selflessly.

See yourself as someone deserving of love

The journey starts in your mind.

As you think, so you are.

If you think you can, you will.

You can have a beautiful, flourishing relationship.

Let that believe take root in your heart.

Love who you are.

Determine to be the best you, you can possibly be.

Invest in materials that help you learn about building strong relationships.

Instead of thinking about what your partner is not doing, focus on their strength. Determine in your heart that you will add value to him/her.

The journey to a great relationship starts with you.

Your dream relationship is possible!

Start creating it now.

You can do it! Go for it!





How To Build Strong Relationships-1

Portrait Of Loving Couple In Countryside

Imagine this.

You meet two people and it is so obvious they are in love.

In your mind you are thinking , ” this is so cute, most likely they are planning their wedding.”

A few minutes later you start chatting with them, only to find out they have been married for almost 10 years  and even have children.

So what comes to mind next?

Maybe a question such as: ” How do you build lasting love relationships?” or ” How do you nurture marriage relationships”?

I remember as a young girl I used to wonder how love can last forever. I had questions on what it takes to build a strong  relationship.

Long before I got married, I started paying attention to people with admirable marriage relationship just to learn what they do differently that make their marriage beautiful. I also started feeding off materials on the subject.  One thing I have realized is that since we are all different, there is no “one size fit all” approach to relationships. However, there are general principles that cuts across the board and form the bedrock of strong relationships.

One key principle that I have learnt is TRUST.

Trust is the foundation of all successful relationships. Nothing could be more disheartening than to find out that your partner  is completely different from who you thought he/she was.

You are not perfect.

Guess what? No one is.

Love who you are, don’t try to be someone else.

Instead, work at becoming the best “you” you can possibly be. Just as you are not perfect, your partner is not perfect either. Accept him/her the way he/she is and grow together.

Look out for more tips in upcoming posts. I love to read from you. Leave your questions and comments below. Thank you


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This article was written by Bola Olayanju & reblogged from inspirationalnuggets

Valuable Tips On Building Strong Relationships

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Imagine two people who are attracted to one another.

They spend so much time talking to each other and making each other laugh. The attraction matures into love, and continues to grow.

During the early days of any relationship, couples spend a lot of TIME together. As a result the relationship blooms and flourishes. Spending time with someone may help you discover you are not a good fit for each other.

Whatever you do to attain a level of success in any area of life should be continued to maintain the success you enjoy.

Life gets busy, especially when couples start raising a family or  job schedule get really demanding.  Making time for one another now becomes something you consciously do.

A relationship that is not nurtured will wither away.

Spending time together is important but is that it?

No, there are so many tips to building strong relationships but  I choose to summarize building strong relationship with this analogy.

If you want to rise through the ranks and climb to the top of the career ladder what do you do?

You work hard, you invest in yourself to improve your productivity, you put a lot of effort into your career to make it a success. Exactly the same principle applies to building relationships. Strong relationships are cultivated by people who consciously invest time and effort in their relationships to make it what they want to be.

Make an effort to understand the other person and look for ways to be a blessing to him/her. Don’t always think about what you stand to gain, look for ways to give and add value to the other person’s life. Love always win, choose to take the high road of love and forgiveness.

You may have had a bad experience in life and you hate yourself for it. No matter how much love is shown to you, you have a difficulty in accepting the love.  This may have been causing problems in your relationship but you know what? That can change. You can learn to love yourself again.


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