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How To Build Strong Relationships-1

Portrait Of Loving Couple In Countryside

Imagine this.

You meet two people and it is so obvious they are in love.

In your mind you are thinking , ” this is so cute, most likely they are planning their wedding.”

A few minutes later you start chatting with them, only to find out they have been married for almost 10 years  and even have children.

So what comes to mind next?

Maybe a question such as: ” How do you build lasting love relationships?” or ” How do you nurture marriage relationships”?

I remember as a young girl I used to wonder how love can last forever. I had questions on what it takes to build a strong  relationship.

Long before I got married, I started paying attention to people with admirable marriage relationship just to learn what they do differently that make their marriage beautiful. I also started feeding off materials on the subject.  One thing I have realized is that since we are all different, there is no “one size fit all” approach to relationships. However, there are general principles that cuts across the board and form the bedrock of strong relationships.

One key principle that I have learnt is TRUST.

Trust is the foundation of all successful relationships. Nothing could be more disheartening than to find out that your partner  is completely different from who you thought he/she was.

You are not perfect.

Guess what? No one is.

Love who you are, don’t try to be someone else.

Instead, work at becoming the best “you” you can possibly be. Just as you are not perfect, your partner is not perfect either. Accept him/her the way he/she is and grow together.

Look out for more tips in upcoming posts. I love to read from you. Leave your questions and comments below. Thank you

 

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This article was written by Bola Olayanju & reblogged from inspirationalnuggets

Important Steps To A Healthy Marriage -II

Couple or marriage in his new home

“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
– Dave Meurer

This quote by Dave Meurer is spot on, absolutely accurate. No one is perfect, enjoying marriage is actually learning to embrace the difference and loving the other person just the way he/she is.

Embrace the differences:

“ Strength lies in differences”- Stephen Covey

Men and women are completely different, and there is so much beauty in that. Women  think differently, respond to situation differently and the list can go on. A man and a woman can attend a wedding event, and provide different accounts of the same event. While a man might give his account in one short sentence a woman might take a longer time describing the details of the wedding.

Embrace the difference and see the good in those differences.  Instead of thinking she talks too much. Admire her for being so observant and having a sharp mind to recollect all the details and vice versa.

Look for the good in people , focus on it, celebrate it.

On my first post in this series I talked about commitment. If you have not read this post please check it out here.

Invest in your marriage

The importance of making an investment in your marriage cannot be over-emphasized.

Investing time and resources.

Make time to learn from people who know more on the subject.

Make time  to bond with one another.  Something as simple as just making time to talk and reflect is priceless.

Success in any area of life is intentional and marriage is not an exception.

You can enjoy a great marriage. Give it all it takes!

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Top 5 Inspiring Quotes on Love

 

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“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
– Dave Meurer

“There is no remedy for love but to love more.”
– Henry David Thoreau

“Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.”
– Ursula K. Le Guin, The Lathe of Heaven

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
– Mignon McLaughlin

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”
– Maya Angelou

 

 

 

Important Steps To A Healthy Marriage- 1

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A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
– Dave Meurer

As a little girl I had my ideas of what marriage should be like. As I grew, I looked out for couples that have beautiful marriages, hoping to learn a thing or two from them.

Over the years, I have learnt a lot, I am still learning and will continue to learn. My husband and I have only been married for 10 years,  but they have been 10 absolutely beautiful years.   Though every marriage situation is different, there are certain principles that are fundamental to success.

Be committed:

The foundation for success in any marriage are two people committed to making it work.

Marriage does not just work.

Marriage works only when the two people involved are determined  to make it work.

There are different stress points in our lives: when you have young children, or you change jobs, or demand on your job changes.

It could even be financial pressures or handling life disappointments.

What ever the stress points are, don’t allow it to drive you apart but drive you closer towards a common goal.

One thing I have realized with any situation we face, there is always something to learn from it. Challenges make us stronger and nothing beats growing stronger together.

I had no idea how involving parenting is. I sincerely thought it was very easy.

My mom had four of us and made it look really easy.

We were only planning to have two so how hard could that be?

When the second one arrived, I still remember how overwhelming it was for me, especially in the first few months.

I had a difficult pregnancy, my body was healing and I had two little children to take care of, along with other responsibilities.

My husband and I had to make time to discuss, mapping out plans on how to get through that phase of our lives with our relationship still in a healthy place.

Seating down and mapping out what we need to do on a daily or weekly basis to succeed as parents and as a couple.

The most important thing is making a choice to get through whatever the situation was together.

You really cannot discuss how to get out of a problem if you do not identify the problem and decide to do something about . Identify the stress points early before it does any damage.

Sometimes couples drift apart without even knowing it.

For instance you are both so busy with your career or family life,  you barely have time to talk. You seldom see each other. Don’t just dismiss this, deal with it the best way you can.

Those are red flags that should not go unnoticed.

Pay attention to the smoke, quench the flame before it becomes a blazing fire.

Your marriage is precious, it should be fun-filled and fulfilling.

Look out for more tips in my next post.