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4 Important Tips For Understanding People

Multi-ethnic friends at bar's balcony

We all have those people in our lives. The ones who are just really difficult to love. They might have an annoying habit that grates our nerves. Or maybe they have a negative attitude all the time, or are never respectful of our time or space. Whatever reason you have for considering that person difficult, here are a few tips on how to love them anyway.

Remember your own faults

None of us like to admit that we are probably difficult to love in some way. Maybe we have our own annoying habits that gets on other people’s nerves. We all have our “unloveable ” moments, so when you are in that situation with your difficult person, take a breath and remember that you have your own moments of difficulty.

Try to understand their back story

Everyone has a back story, no one became who they are today overnight. If your difficult person isn’t all that close to you, try to find out where they come from. Did they have a difficult childhood? Did they just go through a painful divorce? Do they suffer from a mental health condition? Knowing more about what you are dealing with can help you navigate the best way to love that person, through the difficulty.

Speak up

Sometimes people do things that annoy us, and they never know about it, because we are too polite to say anything. If someone is doing something that is disrespectful or annoying, say something. It doesn’t have to be a fight, you can lovingly say “Listen, I love spending time with you, and I need you to know that when you do ______________ (insert annoying thing here) it really makes me feel disrespected”.

Make a choice

This sounds so simple, but often we don’t make the choice to love someone. We let them earn love, by being beneficial to us in some way, however love shouldn’t have to be earned. It is a gift best freely given. So in those moments of difficulty, take a moment and decide to love them anyway. Think about it, you want to be loved through your difficulty, so choose to love your difficult person through all the mess.

4 Important Tips For Understanding People

Multi-ethnic friends at bar's balcony

 

We all have those people in our lives. The ones who are just really difficult to love. They might have an annoying habit that grates our nerves. Or maybe they have a negative attitude all the time, or are never respectful of our time or space. Whatever reason you have for considering that person difficult, here are a few tips on how to love them anyway.

Remember your own faults

None of us like to admit that we are probably difficult to love in some way. Maybe we have our own annoying habits that gets on other people’s nerves. We all have our “unloveable ” moments, so when you are in that situation with your difficult person, take a breath and remember that you have your own moments of difficulty.

Try to understand their back story

Everyone has a back story, no one became who they are today overnight. If your difficult person isn’t all that close to you, try to find out where they come from. Did they have a difficult childhood? Did they just go through a painful divorce? Do they suffer from a mental health condition? Knowing more about what you are dealing with can help you navigate the best way to love that person, through the difficulty.

Speak up

Sometimes people do things that annoy us, and they never know about it, because we are too polite to say anything. If someone is doing something that is disrespectful or annoying, say something. It doesn’t have to be a fight, you can lovingly say “Listen, I love spending time with you, and I need you to know that when you do ______________ (insert annoying thing here) it really makes me feel disrespected”.

Make a choice

This sounds so simple, but often we don’t make the choice to love someone. We let them earn love, by being beneficial to us in some way, however love shouldn’t have to be earned. It is a gift best freely given. So in those moments of difficulty, take a moment and decide to love them anyway. Think about it, you want to be loved through your difficulty, so choose to love your difficult person through all the mess.

2 Important Reasons To Guard Your Words

 

 

The phrase Words Have Power  on a Blackboard

Don’t mix your words and your mood because you can change your mood but you can’t take your words back -Anonymous

If you think about it our words are powerful.

It can bring joy and gladness, or cause pain and heartbreak.

Have you ever paid attention to the words you speak?

Do you really have to pay attention to the word you speak?

When you have a tool that  has the potential to create or destroy, it is important to use it wisely.

If you are wondering why you should guard your words, I hope you find this tips useful.

1. Your words affect the people around you: When you ask people how they are doing or ask after their loved one, it communicates that you care.

Your words convene your heart.

Harsh words, once spoken cannot be retrieved . You may apologize but the damage may have been done already.

Avoid speaking in anger, you may say a lot more than you intend to.

Words carry great impact and when you think about the impact of those words on the recipient you will use it more carefully.

 

2 Your words affect you: Not only does your words affect the people around you but your words affect you as well. Energizing people around you with your words create a great environment for you.

What will you rather have?

A positive energy or a negative one around you.

Set the right environment for work or play with your words.

Your words shape the way you are perceived. Someone that corrects gently or provides constructive criticism is looked up to as a mentor.

How do people around you perceive you?

Are you fun to be around?

Or do people run into their private spaces when you come in.

How you make others feel comes back to affect how you feel.

Your words are impactful, use it wisely.

The power of life and death lies in the tongue – The Bible