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Move Past The Pain…Embrace Who You Are.

I am free to be ME - positive words on a vintage slate blackboard

The greatest place to be in life is to have peace inside and be content with who you are. Finding out your great worth and realizing there is not another YOU, is such a freeing discovery.

Embracing your uniqueness, rather than focusing on your flaws can set you on a course for positive living. Not liking who you are and always comparing yourself to others is a miserable way to live. Of course we all have areas in our lives we need to refine and work on, but like yourself in the process and don’t be so hard on yourself.

You know, God made you exactly the way He wanted you to be and likes you just the way you are…actually, He loves you just the way you are! My favorite scripture is Psalm 139:13-14 (NLT), “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.” How can you not feel special after reading that?! There’s no one like you — you are one of a kind! You are marvelously made! I heard someone once say, “God don’t make no junk!” You are valuable and need to grab hold of that truth, because the truth will set you free!

Become aware of the way you think and speak about yourself, and if it’s not kind…change it. If you are struggling with poor self image, like I did for many years, begin to speak positive affirmations over your life. You believe your words more than any other person, so I encourage you to make a list of all your good traits, strengths, abilities, and talents and go over them:

“I am beautiful.” “I am smart.” “I am caring.” “I am strong.” “I am a hard worker.” And the list goes on and on.

Whatever negative words have been spoken over you by others or yourself, release them and let them go today – never to have a hold on you again!

Be free to be you and be happy being you! When you’re content and at peace with who you are, others are drawn to you. No one wants to be around someone who is negative and constantly down on themselves. Be a light wherever you go…people follow light!

I encourage you to go look in the mirror today and say, “YOU ARE AWESOME and I LOVE YOU!” You may feel silly doing it, but mean it when you say it…and smile!

There’s a whole world out there waiting for your greatness — now go shine!

No More Excuses

Photo credits: Alvera|Dreamestime.com
Photo credits: Alvera|Dreamestime.com

It is not unusual to hear people make excuses for not doing what is expected of them. There is a part of the human nature that wants to push the responsibility for our shortcomings away from us. You may have heard comments like: “I have always been overweight, it is in my genes” or “ It will be great to read books regularly but I am too busy”. Maybe you have not only heard such statements but you have made similar comments as well. The goal of this post is to encourage you to stop making excuses and also provide practical tips that can help you take charge of your life.

There are times you desire specific things and genuinely there are reasons why you cannot take steps in the direction you desire, but should it end there? A story of a young lady  I once heard comes to mind, she got pregnant in high school and had to drop out of school to have the baby. After having the baby, she had to get a job to support herself and the baby. Her job was selling meal tickets at her high school, but she really desired more than that. If you carefully consider this situation, she has a genuine reason for not being in school: she needs a job. What this young girl did in her situation is commendable, she did not settle for the status quo instead she worked around her schedule to make her dream come to pass. She started taking night classes, took her GED and passed. She proceeded to college and earned her Bachelor’s degree, after which she earned an advanced degree. She eventually got a job as a principal in the same school district where she sold meal tickets.

What changes can you make to your current schedule to accommodate your dreams? It might involve taking some time off social media or switching off the TV earlier than you normally would.  Look out for my next post as I delve into this topic more.

– Written by Bola Olayanju

Be yourself… Boldly!

There is nothing more beautiful than feeling comfortable in your own skin. There is something unique and special about you that the world is eager to discover.  If you are wondering how you can feel comfortable being yourself, I hope you find the following tips helpful.

1. Deal with the insecurity: Start by acknowledging your gifts and strengths. When people admire those unique qualities you possess, don’t brush it off, accept it and be thankful for it. So many times people talk so much about their flaws and when others around them talk about their strengths they brush it off. These somewhat simple habit fuels insecurity and low self-esteem. Develop a strategy to change habits you are not happy with in your life.  For example, if you have a poor eating habit, let’s assume you eat too frequently and you really want to change that. You might come up with a strategy to replace your snacks with something rich in whole grains, whole grains tend to make you feel full and may reduce the frequency at which you feel like eating. My goal is not to make dietary recommendations, I used that to illustrate a point that you can take steps to change what you do not like in your life. Do not waste time complaining or blaming others for it, because it would not change the problem it can only compound it.

2. Invest in yourself: Create new habits that help you discover and maximize your potential. Reading books or listening to audio books that are motivational and inspiring is a good place to start. Think about this:  can I carry the same weights body builders carry? No!  Why? They have more muscles than me? No, they do not but they have trained their muscles to carry such heavy weights over time, while I have not. If I want to carry weights like they do I have to train myself to do so, I have the potential to do the same but I have to work on myself to maximize my potential. This simple principle apply in every area of life, start investing in yourself today, you will be amazed to realize how much you have in you.

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