Important Steps To A Healthy Marriage- 1
A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
– Dave Meurer
As a little girl I had my ideas of what marriage should be like. As I grew, I looked out for couples that have beautiful marriages, hoping to learn a thing or two from them.
Over the years, I have learnt a lot, I am still learning and will continue to learn. My husband and I have only been married for 10 years, but they have been 10 absolutely beautiful years. Though every marriage situation is different, there are certain principles that are fundamental to success.
The foundation for success in any marriage are two people committed to making it work.
Marriage does not just work.
Marriage works only when the two people involved are determined to make it work.
There are different stress points in our lives: when you have young children, or you change jobs, or demand on your job changes.
It could even be financial pressures or handling life disappointments.
What ever the stress points are, don’t allow it to drive you apart but drive you closer towards a common goal.
One thing I have realized with any situation we face, there is always something to learn from it. Challenges make us stronger and nothing beats growing stronger together.
I had no idea how involving parenting is. I sincerely thought it was very easy.
My mom had four of us and made it look really easy.
We were only planning to have two so how hard could that be?
When the second one arrived, I still remember how overwhelming it was for me, especially in the first few months.
I had a difficult pregnancy, my body was healing and I had two little children to take care of, along with other responsibilities.
My husband and I had to make time to discuss, mapping out plans on how to get through that phase of our lives with our relationship still in a healthy place.
Seating down and mapping out what we need to do on a daily or weekly basis to succeed as parents and as a couple.
The most important thing is making a choice to get through whatever the situation was together.
You really cannot discuss how to get out of a problem if you do not identify the problem and decide to do something about . Identify the stress points early before it does any damage.
Sometimes couples drift apart without even knowing it.
For instance you are both so busy with your career or family life, you barely have time to talk. You seldom see each other. Don’t just dismiss this, deal with it the best way you can.
Those are red flags that should not go unnoticed.
Pay attention to the smoke, quench the flame before it becomes a blazing fire.
Your marriage is precious, it should be fun-filled and fulfilling.
Look out for more tips in my next post.