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About Kay and Olu Taiwo

Identical twins, Kay and Olu Taiwo are international speakers, ministers, consultants, featured authors, and licensed Pharmacists.

With over 20 years of speaking experience, their ministry has impacted audiences in the Ukraine, Nigeria, England, Philippines, Zimbabwe,
South Africa, Canada, and across the United States of America.

They conduct Vision, Identity, & Purpose (VIP) Seminars. They are blazing a trail around the world in the mobile app industry and are
reaching thousands of people by promoting biblical literacy through mobile technology.

They are the authors of several books, the most recent is, The Vision Guided Life: God’s Strategy for Fulfilling Your Destiny.
For more information about their ministry, visit

Understanding What Courage is (not).


If a person appears on television once or twice, does this make him or her a television celebrity?

How about a man who played in his soccer team when he was in school, does this make him a professional soccer star?

A person assembles an electrical appliance, does this make him an electrician?

The answers to these questions seem obvious, and to conclude in the affirmative would be absurd.

Yet, in other areas of life that demand action, we are too quick to conclude things based on our perception.

Just like our examples above, courage is not an act! Courage is a mindset and lifestyle based on understanding.

There may be an act of courage with little or no understanding, but there never is a life of courage void of it.

A lifestyle of courage exemplifies consistency.

An act of courage may never be reproduced again.

For example,  giving a one time donation to a charity may be a generous act of giving, yet it  does not make you a  benevolent person. Likewise, an act of courage or courageous deed does not stamp on you the emblem of bravery.

If courage is a mindset based on understanding in a given area or subject, it follows that true courage is consistent (because it is a lifestyle). So areas in our lives which lack consistency lack an understanding.


The reason is that, courage is a byproduct of a deep-rooted understanding.


Put slightly different, courage is the result of a lifestyle that has embraced knowledge in the arena it finds itself. (Note: Having knowledge is not the same as embracing it).



What area do you need to take courage in?


Perhaps you are at a crossroad, and you need to make some decisions that are tough, yet necessary. Courage in the face of all odds is what you need.


Courage is not a nominal or average term, not the norm in society. It is called courage because it defies nominal or average thinking.  This is why courageous people never get counsel from average thinkers; average thinkers will bring them back to the norm.



Maybe there are things that you find yourself in today. You have knowledge of the implications and ramifications for the kind of action(s) you need to take.


Regardless of the circumstance, with God’s help it’s time to take action! And while you are at it BE CONSISTENT!


This Word For The Week is a modified excerpt from our book, Uncovering the Hidden Stranger Within: Anwering the Question of Identity.

Define Your Friendships.

Young women in the park

Every one should seek to have three individuals in his life: a Paul, a Barnabas, and a Timothy.

A Paul is an older man who is willing to mentor you, to build into your life. Not someone who’s smarter or more gifted than you, but somebody who’s been down the road. Somebody willing to share his strengths and weaknesses–everything he’s learned in the laboratory of life. Somebody whose faith you’ll want to imitate.

A Barnabas is a soul brother, somebody who loves you but is not impressed by you. Somebody to whom you can be accountable. Somebody who’s willing to keep you honest, who’s willing to say, “Hey, man, you’re neglecting your wife, and don’t give me any guff!”

A Timothy is a younger man into whose life you are building. For a model, read 1 and 2 Timothy. Here was Paul, the quintessential mentor, building into the life of his protegé–affirming, encouraging, teaching, correcting, directing, praying.

Do you have these three guys or ladies in your life?

(Howard Hendricks, professor at Dallas Theological Seminary. Men of Integrity, Vol. 1, no. 1.)

Isn’t it true in our day, that we are too quick to call people friends?

Friendship is an important subject. We all can relate to it, but far too many don’t understand it. A misunderstanding is bound to happen when we fail to clearly define our friendships. Some of us have already paid that price.

There is a difference between an acquaintance and a friend.

When we fail to define our friendships, others will eventually get hurt, feel rejected, and even become alienated. Have you ever heard the words, “I thought he was my friend”? Perhaps you have said those very words. Well, could the problem be that you have not defined what kind of friendships you have?

Friendship can be defined on three (3) levels:

Level One: Friendship of Pleasure: “We have fun times together”

Birthday parties, weddings, take vacations together. Here we do things together for the mere purpose of having fun.

We don’t necessarily call one another when we have needs.

Level Two: Friendship of Utility: “We help each other in times of need”

You need a ride to a place, borrow or lend money, a business partner, you need a text-book to borrow, you need someone to baby-sit your children for the weekend.

The people that we often remember only when we need help, are friends of utility. We reintroduce them into our lives when we have a need.

Level Three: Friendship of Character: “We build each other up for life”

This is the highest level of friendship. This is a true friend.

True friends can speak into our lives. They are not standing on the fringes afraid that we will be offended by what they have to say to us. If you cannot speak into or be spoken into without the fear of alienation, you do not have a true friendship.

Too much diplomacy and politeness may be an indication of pretense.

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. — Proverbs 27:6 (NIV)

Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.– Proverbs 27:17

Really stop and think about it; from our definitions above, we can see that two-thirds (or 67%) of the people we call friends are really acquaintances. It takes more work and commitment to have “friends of character.” It can literally wear you out if you attempt to have too many people speaking into your life.

Therefore it is foolish to have too many “real” friends. Why? You must qualify those who can speak into your life. Acquaintances? a dime a dozen. But true friends require caution.

Where most problems arise is when you or I consider someone to be a “true friend” or friend of character, but he or she considers us to be a friend of pleasure or utility. Each person brings with him or her a different set of expectations. By no means am I suggesting that we go up to someone and ask, “are you a true friend or an acquaintance?” That would be too rigid. I think with time we will know.

It is possible for someone to start out as an acquaintance and become a true friend for life. Give it time!

The Value of Time II


time concept

Do not walk through time without leaving worthy evidence of your passage. –Pope John XXIII (1881-1963)


Every moment comes to you pregnant with a divine purpose; time being so precious that God deals it out only second by second. Once it leaves your hands and your power to do with it as you please, it plunges into eternity, to remain forever what you made it.   —Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen (1895-1979)


It’s up to me to use it.

   I must suffer if I lose it.

   Give account if I abuse it.

   Just a tiny little minute,

   But eternity is in it.

   Learn from yesterday;

   Live for today;

   Hope for tomorrow.

Lost time is never found again.

   Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790)

Make every minute count!




-Edythe Draper, Draper’s Book of Quotations for the Christian World

(Wheaton: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., 1992). Entries 11303-11305.

*James S. Hewett, Illustrations Unlimited (Wheaton: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc, 1988), p. 477.


The Value of Time

time concept

By Kay Taiwo

A man had a checkup and then went in to see his doctor to get the results. The doctor said he had bad news and worse news for him, which did he want to hear first? The man was a bit nonplussed and said he’d rather hear the bad news first. The doctor said, “The bad news is that you only have twenty-four hours to live.”

At this the man jumped up, totally flabbergasted and distraught. He paced the doctor’s office and complained, “Twenty-four hours to live? I can’t possibly get my affairs in order that quickly. I can’t believe this, it is incredible! What could be worse news than this?”

The doctor said, “The worse news is that I was supposed to tell you this yesterday but I forgot.” *

Many have resigned themselves to spectatorship when they ought to be active participants in this fleeting moment we call time. Without a doubt, procrastination is a thief of time.

People fail to realize that their real competition is not people, relatives, boss, brother, sister, or in-law etc.

Our real and greatest competition on this side of eternity is TIME. So we are in a race against time to get as much done before TIME runs out!

Some may say, “Whatever I do with my time is my own business!” Oh really?

The use of our time can have positive or negative consequences.

Consider this:

-What Thomas Edison did with his time gave us the light bulb, and over a thousand more inventions.

–What Mother Theresa did with her time gave dignity to the poor.

-What John the baptist did with his time affected Jesus!

-What Jesus did with His time has obvious eternal consequences.

-What Paul did with his time spread the gospel and gave us written epistles to read and establish church doctrine.

-What nine year old Ryan Hreljac did with his time raised over $200,000 and built 50 drinking wells in Uganda, Africa.

-What you do with YOUR time will….

What you and I do with our time is the determining factor for whether we will be remembered as successes or failures.

 Do not walk through time without leaving worthy evidence of your passage.—-Pope John XXIII (1881-1963)


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