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About Julia B. Olayanju

Julia B. Olayanju is a motivator, she writes with the goal to inspire people to live their best life now.

Four Effective Ways To Become More Disciplined

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Have you ever struggled with discipline?

You start a new routine with so much energy.

Not only did you start with so much energy…

You were certain this routine will change your life.

This thought fills your heart with so much joy and excitement.

…but your excitement only lasted a few weeks.

The energy you had seem to drain off with every passing day.

What happened?

How can you prevent this from happening again?

This post focuses on how to  become more discipline.

1. Keep your eyes on the prize :

You started this routine for a reason.

Your reason maybe to lose 30 pounds and fit perfectly into your wedding dress.

Or  train regularly to run a marathon in a year

Whatever your goal is, connect with it.

Visualize the end result and keep it in-front of you daily.

See yourself fit into that lovely dress you desire.

Get a clear visual of your end result

See it daily.

Let it excite you…

…Motivate you

…and keep you energized.

Connecting with your  desired endpoint goes a long way to keep you motivated.

2. Make it a priority.

Start your day with the things on your priority list.

Before you get on social media or reply emails .

Make the routine that leads to your goal a priority.

Get the routine out the way early in your day.

3. Schedule block time

Map out a regular time for your routine.

Create a block of time to write every day.

Block out all distractions during this time frame and focus on the task on hand.

By doing this you can accomplish your goals easily and have something to celebrate.

4. Celebrate small wins

Keep yourself motivated by celebrating quick wins.

If your goal is to write a book,

Celebrate when you finish a chapter.

Give yourself  pat on the back and energize your self to do more.

You can be disciplined.

Actually…

…anyone can develop discipline by taking practical steps to do so.

” Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment – Jim Rohn”

 

How To Condition Your Mind For Success

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We have a very lovely park close to our home.

The park overlooks a pond . On warm days you will find people seating on the bench feeding  the ducks.

Anytime these ducks see anyone approach the pond, they quickly move out of the water and approach the person expecting to be fed. In most cases, they get fed.

Recently the municipal government put a notice up that no one should feed the ducks anymore for their safety.

Even though we all love to feed the birds,  most  people stopped feeding the birds. Guess what the ducks still do when they see people approaching?

They quickly get out of the water and approach their guest expecting to be fed.

The ducks have been conditioned that way based on their experience over time.

The same instinct lies with people, it is not difficult to expect success in any area of life where you have repeatedly enjoyed success.  Some expect failure as well based on prior disappointing experiences.

What are you conditioned for?

Some expect to be the first set of people to be laid off when the company is in distress. Others  do not expect success in their relationships because that is the trend in their family. While some think success, speak success and expect success . Which category do you belong to?

When you condition your mind for something you will have it. Success or failure,  it does not matter which.

Have you conditioned your heart for success?

The journey to success starts in your mind, where do you see yourself?

Information you  feed on shapes how you think or what  you experience.

If you have been laid off your job twice, your mind processes it and makes you wonder when the next lay off event will be? You expect to be laid off… you can change this though.

You can condition your heart for success, expecting success at every turn

You can change a negative mindset by feeding on a new set of information.  Information that adds value to you. Information that inspires and energize you.

Refuse to allow your past to define you. Set yourself up for success and start the journey now!

2 Effective Tips For Understanding People

 

Multi-ethnic friends at bar's balcony

Have you ever felt like criticizing someone?

Giving them a piece of your mind?

They are so “difficult” to deal with …

I recently spoke with someone who went through a very difficult time in her life.

She suffered abuse, which on its own was terrible but also had to deal with the rejection and criticism which almost drove her to suicide.

10 years later, the story still bought tears to her eyes.

The truth is none of us will ever know how we will react under any circumstance. Before you say anything, take a minute to put yourself in the person’s shoes and consider how you will want to be treated.

Choose to be a voice of encouragement, making efforts to understand people, and bringing the best out of them.

On several occasions you will refrain from judging people if only you imagine yourself in the person’s shoes.

If you think back, you most likely will remember a time someone reached out to you with a kind gesture that warmed your heart.

Most times these gestures are unexpected and does not warrant a favor in return.

We live in a world where people suffer loss, endure abuse,  live in poverty or with depression.  Often times they react out of their pain…

Someone you work with may even be going through a difficult situation, endeavoring to hold up strong.

Wondering what you can do?  Below are practical perspective shifting thoughts.

1. Make an effort to understand:  An act of kindness could be as simple as accommodating someone’s “annoying”  behavior, you really do not know what is really going on in their lives.

I once read a story of a man on the New York subway, it was early in the morning and every one was enjoying a quiet peaceful ride until this man and his 3 boys came on-board.

The children were quite restless and their father did not make any effort to check them.

At some point, one of the passengers got tired of the noise and chaos the children were making and was about to give the father his candid opinion.

He decided to start by asking where their mother was, the man took a deep breath and responded that she died that morning and they just left the hospital.

That response completely changed the other passenger’s perspective, the children were not really noisy after all. You really do not know what the person next to you, and an act of kindness might be as simple as being more accommodating.

Would your perspective change if you can have a sneak peek into what your colleague’s life really looks like? Knowing the pain she is enduring and what she is really dealing with?

Choose to be patient with people, things are not really the way they look most times.

2. Reach Out To People With Kindness : Extend a hand of kindness to someone in need.  It could even be something as simple as buying a cup of coffee for someone. Make it your goal to put a smile on someone’s lips this week, you never know, you may be providing someone with a reason to live. Focus on adding value to people.

Though it sounds really simple choosing to enrich other people is very gratifying and transformational (it changes you to be a stronger and more compassionate person)

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