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Valuable Tips On Building Strong Relationships

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Imagine two people who are attracted to one another.

They spend so much time talking to each other and making each other laugh. The attraction matures into love, and continues to grow.

During the early days of any relationship, couples spend a lot of TIME together. As a result the relationship blooms and flourishes. Spending time with someone may help you discover you are not a good fit for each other.

Whatever you do to attain a level of success in any area of life should be continued to maintain the success you enjoy.

Life gets busy, especially when couples start raising a family or  job schedule get really demanding.  Making time for one another now becomes something you consciously do.

A relationship that is not nurtured will wither away.

Spending time together is important but is that it?

No, there are so many tips to building strong relationships but  I choose to summarize building strong relationship with this analogy.

If you want to rise through the ranks and climb to the top of the career ladder what do you do?

You work hard, you invest in yourself to improve your productivity, you put a lot of effort into your career to make it a success. Exactly the same principle applies to building relationships. Strong relationships are cultivated by people who consciously invest time and effort in their relationships to make it what they want to be.

Make an effort to understand the other person and look for ways to be a blessing to him/her. Don’t always think about what you stand to gain, look for ways to give and add value to the other person’s life. Love always win, choose to take the high road of love and forgiveness.

You may have had a bad experience in life and you hate yourself for it. No matter how much love is shown to you, you have a difficulty in accepting the love.  This may have been causing problems in your relationship but you know what? That can change. You can learn to love yourself again.

 

Reblogged from inspiringnuggets.com

 

 

4 Important Tips For Understanding People

Multi-ethnic friends at bar's balcony

 

We all have those people in our lives. The ones who are just really difficult to love. They might have an annoying habit that grates our nerves. Or maybe they have a negative attitude all the time, or are never respectful of our time or space. Whatever reason you have for considering that person difficult, here are a few tips on how to love them anyway.

Remember your own faults

None of us like to admit that we are probably difficult to love in some way. Maybe we have our own annoying habits that gets on other people’s nerves. We all have our “unloveable ” moments, so when you are in that situation with your difficult person, take a breath and remember that you have your own moments of difficulty.

Try to understand their back story

Everyone has a back story, no one became who they are today overnight. If your difficult person isn’t all that close to you, try to find out where they come from. Did they have a difficult childhood? Did they just go through a painful divorce? Do they suffer from a mental health condition? Knowing more about what you are dealing with can help you navigate the best way to love that person, through the difficulty.

Speak up

Sometimes people do things that annoy us, and they never know about it, because we are too polite to say anything. If someone is doing something that is disrespectful or annoying, say something. It doesn’t have to be a fight, you can lovingly say “Listen, I love spending time with you, and I need you to know that when you do ______________ (insert annoying thing here) it really makes me feel disrespected”.

Make a choice

This sounds so simple, but often we don’t make the choice to love someone. We let them earn love, by being beneficial to us in some way, however love shouldn’t have to be earned. It is a gift best freely given. So in those moments of difficulty, take a moment and decide to love them anyway. Think about it, you want to be loved through your difficulty, so choose to love your difficult person through all the mess.