Monthly Archives: October 2016

An Inspiring Story Everyone Should Read

 

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No matter what situation you face in life you can do two things about it: complain or take action.

The story I will be sharing with you today captures someone who chose to do something about his pain.

What makes this more interesting is the fact that the person involved is a young 10-year-old.

Cory lives with her single mom in New Jersey and takes the bus around.

One day he told his mom to buy a car because he is tired of waiting for buses in the cold.

His mom could not afford a car so Cory made a suggestion, ” lets start selling hot cocoa..”

They started selling cookies and his business grew .

It grew to the point that it attracted popular TV shows expanding the business even further.

Apart form being the CEO of his own company, popular brands signed him up to model their products. Some of such brands are Ralph Laurel and Tommy Hilfiger

What challenge are you facing today?

What will you rather do?

Complain or Act?

The choice is yours.

Remember complaining does not change the problem, it only changes you.

It changes you by changing your attitude.

Think about what you can do to solve the problem, really there is something you can do.

Be inspired as you watch Cory’s story here

 

 

 

 

Practical Tips For Great Friendships

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A true friend is the one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out”- Walter Winchell

Who do you have in your network?

Who do you call friends?

Do you have moments when you wonder who should be in your close network?

When going is tough how many people stick around?

 

You know what you want in your friendships:

You want people around you that add value to you.

People that are not intimidated by your successes or ambitions.

Friends that add value to you and are teachable enough to learn from you.

People that believe in you and call out the best in you.

Friends that stick with you during difficult times and good times too.

Friends add so much value to daily life but some friends could be toxic as well.

It is important to carefully examine your friendship to identify the relationships that you should  invest in and the ones  you need to stay away from.

Why ?

The people you surround yourself with, will determine how far you will go in life.

You might have 2000 friends on Facebook but you know the few that are truly dear to your heart.

 

There are different ways people classify friendships but I will give two simple categories:

1. General Friends:

These are different types of people you have met over the years: high school friends, college friends, friends from former jobs. You keep in touch once in a while but you are not really close.

These category of friends are  mainly acquaintances you have made on your journey but not necessarily close friends to you in any way.

Should you share your dreams and ambition with these friends?

 

Maybe not.

What should you expect from these friendships?

Maybe nothing more that seasonal greetings…

It is possible that a friendship  you started in these circles may mature into deeper relationship but some cases it does not.

Enjoy the friendship for what it is.

Growth Friends:

These are friends that grow with you through different phases in lives.

There is a mutual understanding and bonding that keeps you together over the years.

These are people who have a vision for their lives and are consistently adding value to themselves.

Sometimes they are simply people you can confide in.

Some may be supportive friends, that support you in difficult times.

Some growth friends encourage you towards your dreams and you reciprocate such.

Friendship is important, to accomplish your goals you need people who will encourage you, challenge to go further.

Don’t surround yourself with people who drain you.

Don’t surround yourself with people who make you feel inadequate

Surround yourself with people you can grow together. People that believe in you

Think about this scenario:

When you plant a seed, the seed has the potential to grow and blossom.

There are many factors that contribute to the plant’s growth.

Moisture, adequate sunshine, nutrients from the soil and many more.

If the sun exposure is too much, the plant may be scorched to death.

The same applies when moisture or soil nutrient is lacking or inadequate, the plant suffers equally.

This also applies to every individual. Every individual has the potential to be the best they can possibly be.

There are several factors that affect how far anyone can go in life, one of such factors is friendships.

Choose your friends wisely.

Thinking about how to find the type of friends you desire ?

Be that person, be the supportive friend, be the one that encourages

You will attract a friend like you.

You are destined for greatness, surround yourself with people who join hands with you to make that happen.

Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you; spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life.” — Amy Poehler

 

Photo credit: Jens Johnson

 

How To Stay Focused

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Have you ever had moments when simply told yourself I need to focus…

At such moments,  you ask yourself…how?

How do I focus?

Staying focused is an act of the will.

The decision  is completely yours.

The following tips will provide practical steps that  will help you focus on things that matter the most to you and accomplish your goals.

1. Clearly Define Your Focus:

What do you want to achieve?

What is the goal that more than anything you really want to achieve.

Decide what is top priority to you and what you need to do to accomplish it.

Think  about this:

You jumped into your car and drove around a neighborhood for an hour without really going anywhere. Just taking in the view and killing time.

What if you got into the car with a plan to visit your friend who lives an hour North of you. In an hour you could be knocking on your friend’s door.

What’s the difference?

One scenario, you had no goal, you were just driving around, while in the second scenario you had a destination in mind.

You can not focus without clearly defining what you want to focus on. Take out a note pad or your journal and clearly define what you want to focus on.

2.  Get Rid Of Distractions :

We all have distractions around us. Sometimes these distractions are essential tools in our lives .

Examples are emails or social media.

These tools definitely add value to daily lives but need to be controlled to get things done.

There are times you might have to stay off social media as you focus on what you want to get done.

There are other times it may suffice to allocate a specific time in your day to take care of those activities that ordinarily might take the whole day from you.

3. Learn To Say “No”:

There are times it is absolutely vital to your success to say NO

Opportunities may come that you will have to turn down.

Why?

Because it will distract you from what accomplishing what you have prioritized

People may come around to ask you for favors but you must learn to say NO.

Like I once heard someone say ” If you do not have a plan for your life, people who have plans for theirs will help you spend or waste your time.”

I remember college days, there were some students who will go into hiding when they want to study.

No one knows where or when they study, but when they are ready to take a short break from their study they come around to chat with people trying to study.

These students tend to lead the class and it took a while for people to catch on to their style.

Once people caught on to their style, they simply ignore them when they come around for a chat during exam preps.

No matter what your goal is, you can accomplish it if you make it your priority.

Remember athletes…

Athletes always come to mind when I think about focus. When an athlete is on the field, there are so many distractions.

People that are cheering them on, people who are calling out to them and people who are booing them.

It does not matter to the athlete what the crowd is doing. One thing is priority to the athlete and that is the game.

They focus exclusively on the game

Be like an athlete,  focus on your game, it does not matter what type of distraction lurks around.

Be determined to focus on your game and accomplish your goals.

You can do it so go for it!!

 

 

 

 

 

How To Regain Your Confidence After Rejection

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We all have had that one big let down in our life. Whether it is a career advancement, asking someone out on a date, or sharing a new idea with someone, it stings when we feel rejected. But, many times we overlook the value in rejection. Finding the value in rejections can help you regain your confidence and allow you to keep forging forward!

 

Here are a few simple tips to help you see the value in rejection:

 

1. CONNECTING THE DOTS

As the late Steve Jobs said, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.”

Looking back in my life, I have realized what seemed like a loss or failure due to rejection always lead me to a better opportunity. For example, when I was younger I worked for a company that sold advertising. After working for the company for a few years and increasing my sales consistently, I approached my boss for a promotion. After a week of deliberation by management, I found out that they had given the promotion to another employee. I was devastated by this rejection. However, just a month later I ended up switching careers due to an opportunity in California in film and television. If I received the promotion, I would have been dedicated to my new position and would not have received this opportunity that lead me down a more authentic path as an artist. As my father always used to say, “When one door closes a better one opens.” Your rejection just may be leading you to a better opportunity.

 

2) THIS TOO SHALL PASS

When you first get rejected, you may feel:

-Sadness

-Anger

-Frustration

-Hopeless

-Heart Rate Increase

-Shaky

-Body Temperature Increase

-Unmotivated to try again

-Lethargic

 

It is normal to experience these feelings after being rejected from something you were hoping to receive. But, knowing that time heals all wounds will help you to see the light at the end of the tunnel. These feelings tend to lighten after a few days and within a few weeks, you should be feeling a significant difference in your mood. Through each experience, we learn something about ourselves or others, and when this experience passes, you will be able to reflect on it and pull out the lesson it was giving you. Which leads me to my next point:

 

 

 

3) REJECTION IS A GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN

Many times we look at rejection as a failure. But failure has been given a bad name. It is through failures that we learn how to do something better. It is through failures that we gain strength and knowledge. Failure is just a step forward in the right direction. You are learning every step of the way. When you can pull out a lesson from what seemed like a failure, then you didn’t fail. This will increase your confidence and give you less anxiety during your next attempt at your goal.  Rejection and failures are opportunities to learn and gain confidence on your next attempt!

 

4) PREPARE FOR REJECTION

Bo Bennett, once said, “Rejection is nothing more than the necessary step in the pursuit of success.” When you prepare your plan and steps toward success, prepare for the possibility of rejection. It is a step towards your success. When you look at rejection as just part of the climb towards your goal, you won’t be so shocked when it happens. The most successful people in life know that what seems like a great success in the public was over 100 failed attempts in private. Knowing this will help keep you confident that you aren’t failing you are moving closer to succeeding.

 

5) DON’T BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF

If you got rejected, that means you are TRYING! Most people don’t even have the courage to put themselves out there and try. So, don’t be so hard on yourself. Have the confidence to know that you are courageous enough to go for what you want in life. Many people will live a life of regret because they never even tried. Be kind to yourself. You are doing more than half the people in the world, just by trying.

 

So the next time you put it all on the line, and someone responds back to you with a big “NO.” You just hold your head high and know that something better is around the corner, so don’t give up! Find the lesson in this rejection and apply it to your next success! Finally, if you keep moving forward, past this rejection, you won’t just be going through it, you will be growing through it!