Monthly Archives: September 2016

Simple Tips To A Stronger Self-esteem

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The greatest place to be in life is to have peace inside and be content with who you are. Finding out your great worth and realizing there is not another YOU, is such a freeing discovery.

Embracing your uniqueness, rather than focusing on your flaws can set you on a course for positive living. Not liking who you are and always comparing yourself to others is a miserable way to live. Of course we all have areas in our lives we need to refine and work on, but like yourself in the process and don’t be so hard on yourself.

You know, God made you exactly the way He wanted you to be and likes you just the way you are…actually, He loves you just the way you are! My favorite scripture is Psalm 139:13-14 (NLT), “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.” How can you not feel special after reading that?! There’s no one like you — you are one of a kind! You are marvelously made! I heard someone once say, “God don’t make no junk!” You are valuable and need to grab hold of that truth, because the truth will set you free!

Become aware of the way you think and speak about yourself, and if it’s not kind…change it. If you are struggling with poor self-image, like I did for many years, begin to speak positive affirmations over your life. You believe your words more than any other person, so I encourage you to make a list of all your good traits, strengths, abilities, and talents and go over them:

“I am beautiful.” “I am smart.” “I am caring.” “I am strong.” “I am a hard worker.” And the list goes on and on.

Whatever negative words have been spoken over you by others or yourself, release them and let them go today – never to have a hold on you again!

Be free to be you and be happy being you! When you’re content and at peace with who you are, others are drawn to you. No one wants to be around someone who is negative and constantly down on themselves. Be a light wherever you go…people follow light!

I encourage you to go look in the mirror today and say, “YOU ARE AWESOME and I LOVE YOU!” You may feel silly doing it, but mean it when you say it…and smile!

There’s a whole world out there waiting for your greatness — now go shine!

3 Valuable Tips For Understanding The Woman You Love

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One of my favorite speakers started his talk with the short story below

“A man went to God and asked Him to make a highway across the Atlantic so that people can drive across and also enjoy the view.

God responded that his request was very impractical and difficult to accomplish.

He asked him to make another request.

The man thought about it and asked God to help him understand women. He said he will like to know why they think and respond the way they do.”

God was silent for a while.

Then He responded how many lanes do you want on the highway? 4 or 6?”

After a good laugh,  one question popped up in my mind: why do people think women are difficult to understand?

I truly cannot count the number of times I have heard people talk about this.

Not understanding women has caused pain for some, broken homes for others.

Some believe it is impossible to understand a woman.

Others think women are so complicated.

Reading this article you may even be thinking, how can anyone understand a woman?

Well, relax and let me share my thoughts with you.

  1. Change your mindset:

“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right” – Henry Ford

The journey to understanding a woman starts with changing the way you think.

So many people believe they can’t understand a woman mainly because they have heard people say so.

Even if you have had experiences in the past that shaped your belief. Holding on to that belief is simply allowing your past to shape your future.

Think about this, you had difficulties understanding one or two women in the past, does that really mean this will always be the case?

Or better still you met two women that are amazing cooks… does this mean all women are great cooks?

Your belief shapes your reality.

Women can be understood and you can understand women too.

 

  1. Embrace the differences:

“Strength lies in differences”- Stephen Covey

Men and women are completely different, and there is so much beauty in that.

Women think differently, respond to situation differently and the list can go on.

A man and a woman can attend a wedding event, and provide different accounts of the same event.

While a man might give his account in one short sentence a woman might take a longer time describing the details of the wedding.

Embrace the difference and see the good in those differences.  Instead of thinking she talks too much. Admire her for being so observant and having a sharp mind to recollect all the details.

  1. Understand the main influences in her life:  

Every woman is unique.

She views life through different lenses.

Her life is shaped by her upbringing, relationship with her father, education, culture, beliefs and lots more.

While some women may have been raised by fathers who loved and adored them, some may have been raised by abusive fathers, others without a father at all.

All these come to play in her relationships.

Think about a woman who was raised in a caring and nurturing environment. She grows up secure and confident.

She had a father who adored her, treated her with love and respect. In her mind a standard for love has been set by her father.

She expects to be treated with love and respect and the bar can only be higher than the standard set by her father. The way she carries herself and the way she interacts with men all reflect the upbringing she has had.

A woman raised by a single mom may be very independent.

Not because she is trying to prove she does not need a man.

It may simply be because she grew up taking up responsibilities at a very young age.

Her mum works two jobs and she started taking care of her 3 siblings at a young age.

A man in her life will have to understand the factors that shaped her life, and know the lens through which she views life.

For her to allow him to do things for her, telling her directly may be necessary.

While some women may have been fortunate to have loving fathers, others may have abused by the same person they love, trust and look up to.

A woman from this upbringing may grow up thinking all men want is to abuse her or take advantage of her.

Some grow out of these abusive upbringing to become very promiscuous, living a life of pain and regret.

Never look down on a woman. You really do not know what she is going through or have been through.

Every time I think about a woman, diamonds come to mind.

Diamonds are valuable, shining and attractive.

Every woman is valuable, priceless and deserves respect.

Women are emotional beings and are greatly influenced by several life factors.

Life factors such as great home, great education and great relationships polish the diamond.

Abusive relationships, feelings of rejection and low self-esteem is simply detrimental

Understanding that women are different and also appreciating all the dynamics that shape the lens through which a woman views life is crucial to great relationship.

Understanding a woman  is a product of conscious effort in the right direction.

If you set your mind to it, you can easily understand a woman

 

PS: These are some of my thoughts on this, leave your comments below, I look forward to reading and responding to them.

5 Top Inspirational Quotes By Jim Rohn

Jim Rohn is a legend whose inspirational resources still motivates people all around the world today.

Below are some of his top quotes. I hope you find it inspiring!!  tuesday wednesdaywish-for-a-better-you

 

discipline monday

Four Ways To Become More Disciplined

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Have you ever struggled with discipline?

You start a new routine with so much energy.

Not only did you start with so much energy…

You were certain this routine will change your life.

This thought fills your heart with so much joy and excitement.

…but your excitement only lasted a few weeks.

The energy you had seem to drain off with every passing day.

What happened?

How can you prevent this from happening again?

This post focuses on how to  become more discipline.

1. Keep your eyes on the prize :

You started this routine for a reason.

Your reason maybe to lose 30 pounds and fit perfectly into your wedding dress.

Or  train regularly to run a marathon in a year

Whatever your goal is, connect with it.

Visualize the end result and keep it in-front of you daily.

See yourself fit into that lovely dress you desire.

Get a clear visual of your end result

See it daily.

Let it excite you…

…Motivate you

…and keep you energized.

Connecting with your  desired endpoint goes a long way to keep you motivated.

2. Make it a priority.

Start your day with the things on your priority list.

Before you get on social media or reply emails .

Make the routine that leads to your goal a priority.

Get the routine out the way early in your day.

3. Schedule block time

Map out a regular time for your routine.

Create a block of time to write every day.

Block out all distractions during this time frame and focus on the task on hand.

By doing this you can accomplish your goals easily and have something to celebrate.

4. Celebrate small wins

Keep yourself motivated by celebrating quick wins.

If your goal is to write a book,

Celebrate when you finish a chapter.

Give yourself  pat on the back and energize your self to do more.

You can be disciplined.

Actually…

…anyone can develop discipline by taking practical steps to do so.

” Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment – Jim Rohn”