Have you ever felt like criticizing someone?
Giving them a piece of your mind?
They are so “difficult” to deal with …
I recently spoke with someone who went through a very difficult time in her life.
She suffered abuse, which on its own was terrible but also had to deal with the rejection and criticism which almost drove her to suicide.
10 years later, the story still bought tears to her eyes.
The truth is none of us will ever know how we will react under any circumstance. Before you say anything, take a minute to put yourself in the person’s shoes and consider how you will want to be treated.
Choose to be a voice of encouragement, making efforts to understand people, and bringing the best out of them.
On several occasions you will refrain from judging people if only you imagine yourself in the person’s shoes.
If you think back, you most likely will remember a time someone reached out to you with a kind gesture that warmed your heart.
Most times these gestures are unexpected and does not warrant a favor in return.
We live in a world where people suffer loss, endure abuse, live in poverty or with depression. Often times they react out of their pain…
Someone you work with may even be going through a difficult situation, endeavoring to hold up strong.
Wondering what you can do? Below are practical perspective shifting thoughts.
1. Make an effort to understand: An act of kindness could be as simple as accommodating someone’s “annoying” behavior, you really do not know what is really going on in their lives.
I once read a story of a man on the New York subway, it was early in the morning and every one was enjoying a quiet peaceful ride until this man and his 3 boys came on-board.
The children were quite restless and their father did not make any effort to check them.
At some point, one of the passengers got tired of the noise and chaos the children were making and was about to give the father his candid opinion.
He decided to start by asking where their mother was, the man took a deep breathe and responded that she died that morning and they just left the hospital.
That response completely changed the other passenger’s perspective, the children were not really noisy after all. You really do not know what the person next to you, and a act of kindness might be as simple as being more accommodating.
Would your perspective change if you can have a sneak peak into what your colleagues life really looks like? Knowing the pain she is enduring and what she is really dealing with?
Choose to be patient with people, things are not really the way they look most times.
2. Reach Out To People With Kindness : Extend a hand of kindness to someone in need. It could even be something as simple as buying a cup of coffee for someone. Make it your goal to put a smile on someone’s lips this week, you never know, you may be providing someone with a reason to live. Focus on adding value to people.
Though it sounds really simple choosing to enrich other people is very gratifying and transformational (it changes you to be a stronger and more compassionate person).