Monthly Archives: August 2016

How To Finish The Year Strong

 

5 Ways to Achieve any Goal_image_01_800X600You started the year with so much energy.

Excited about new beginnings.

More importantly excited about your goals and all you have planned for the year. For some it has been an amazing year, with most goals checked off and everything  on track. Great.

For some, so many things happened during the year that was not planned for. Things happened that completely  threw your plans off (unexpected job loss or loss of a loved one) and you absolutely have no clue where to start.

Despite the rough year you have had, you can still finish the year strong!

Here are a few practical steps to get you started:

1. Believe You Can: the battle is won or lost in your mind, if you believe you can, you will. Mentally prepare your self to get back on track.

2. Make Plans For Success: Write down your goals, set a date to accomplish them. Review your goals  frequently. Make a list of things you need to do on a daily basis to make your goals a reality. You might need to double up on your activities to accomplish your goals.

3. Create a support system around yourself: having people who can hold you accountable can go a long way to help you stay on track to accomplish your goal.

Most importantly, be determined to finish strong. You can, so go for it!

Tips To A Happier You

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Have you ever being in a place where you think, when a dream comes true then I will be happy.

For you it could be when I get married I will be happy.

Then you get married, and you start saying when I hold my baby in my arms I will be so happy.

The baby comes, then  you move on to, when the baby grows and I do not have to wake up so frequently in the middle of the night I will be  happy…

I could go on and on but my goal is to point something out.  If you look at this analogy you will notice a very important phrase “I will”.

1. Happiness is a choice:

If you can be happy when a particular desire comes true, you can choose to be happy now. Think about traveling on a journey to your favorite destination with your kids.

Most kids will ask their parents  repeatedly ” are we there yet?”

They are eager to get to their destination, based on that focus cannot enjoy the journey to their destination.

Most adults however,  take in the scenery,  appreciate the quality time spent together. Truly enjoying  the journey to the desired destination. The journey may be bumpy, but the choice to be happy or not is still yours.

Think about a nursing mother…

Waking up to nurse in the middle of the night, handling several demands that comes with taking care of a young one.

She could either enjoy the special bonding time with the young one and be happy for the many blessings that comes with it or simply complain, eagerly waiting for the child to grow.

Happiness is a choice, a choice you alone can make.

True happiness is… to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future. –
Lucius Annaeus Seneca

2. Be The One Making The Call

Don’t give people the opportunity to decide when you are happy.

Be the one making the call on how you feel.

Think about this popular saying for a second ” ..you can’t stop a bird from flying over your head but you can prevent in from making a nest there” .

In the same vein, you can’t control what people will say or how they will behave but you can control how it affects you.

Spend time discovering what works best for you. The bottom-line can be summarized in this short quote.

If you want to be happy, be. -Leo Tolstoy

 

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2 Simple Tips For Understanding People

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Have you ever felt like criticizing someone?

Giving them a piece of your mind?

They are so “difficult” to deal with …

I recently spoke with someone who went through a very difficult time in her life.

She suffered abuse, which on its own was terrible but also had to deal with the rejection and criticism which almost drove her to suicide.

10 years later, the story still bought tears to her eyes.

The truth is none of us will ever know how we will react under any circumstance. Before you say anything, take a minute to put yourself in the person’s shoes and consider how you will want to be treated.

Choose to be a voice of encouragement, making efforts to understand people, and bringing the best out of them.

On several occasions you will refrain from judging people if only you imagine yourself in the person’s shoes.

If you think back, you most likely will remember a time someone reached out to you with a kind gesture that warmed your heart.

Most times these gestures are unexpected and does not warrant a favor in return.

We live in a world where people suffer loss, endure abuse,  live in poverty or with depression.  Often times they react out of their pain…

Someone you work with may even be going through a difficult situation, endeavoring to hold up strong.

Wondering what you can do?  Below are practical perspective shifting thoughts.

1. Make an effort to understand:  An act of kindness could be as simple as accommodating someone’s “annoying”  behavior, you really do not know what is really going on in their lives.

I once read a story of a man on the New York subway, it was early in the morning and every one was enjoying a quiet peaceful ride until this man and his 3 boys came on-board.

The children were quite restless and their father did not make any effort to check them.

At some point, one of the passengers got tired of the noise and chaos the children were making and was about to give the father his candid opinion.

He decided to start by asking where their mother was, the man took a deep breathe and responded that she died that morning and they just left the hospital.

That response completely changed the other passenger’s perspective, the children were not really noisy after all. You really do not know what the person next to you, and a act of kindness might be as simple as being more accommodating.

Would your perspective change if you can have a sneak peak into what your colleagues life really looks like? Knowing the pain she is enduring and what she is really dealing with?

Choose to be patient with people, things are not really the way they look most times.

2. Reach Out To People With Kindness : Extend a hand of kindness to someone in need.  It could even be something as simple as buying a cup of coffee for someone. Make it your goal to put a smile on someone’s lips this week, you never know, you may be providing someone with a reason to live. Focus on adding value to people.

Though it sounds really simple choosing to enrich other people is very gratifying and transformational (it changes you to be a stronger and more compassionate person).

 

How To Find Purpose In Life

Be what you want to be.

Wondering what your purpose is in life?

You wonder how you can balance your passion, training in a logical way?

I am an accountant, with a passion for helping people and public speaking.

How can I bring it all together?

You find yourself and find that purpose for your life.

We have a video from an expert in the field. Listen to this video by John Maxwell.