Monthly Archives: April 2016

4 Important Reasons To Keep A Journal

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Editor’s note:  Are you a woman who desire to start keeping a journal? Confidence Journal For Career Women is a great journal any woman would benefit from. It provides daily action tips and encouragement, that will motivate you to move from where you are to where you want to be. Grab your copy here! Not sure if you should keep a journal? Check out this practical article by Sara Gaylon.

Gone are the days of our youth with tiny locks and dear diary entries. Or are they? Keeping a journal as an adult can have many benefits to your mind and soul.  Here are a few of the great results of keeping a journal.

1. Achieving Goals

Goals mean very little if you don’t tell someone about them, even if that someone is yourself in your journal. We tend to keep a running list in our heads of all the things we want to accomplish, but writing them down helps us take that first step of prioritizing what is important. After prioritizing a journal helps you keep up with your progress on your goals, and seeing progress is a great emotional boost towards accomplishing those goals.

2. Strengthening Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence is something we often overlook in our personal development, more often we focus on skills we have that are marketable. However learning to process our own emotions, a natural byproduct of journaling, helps to increase that emotional intelligence, allowing us to become more empathetic to the feelings of others. Who wouldn’t see that as a marketable skill?

3. Self Discipline

Forming habits are hard, but beginning the process of journaling is a great way to start one habit in your life. Setting time aside each day to journal can begin that process of habit formation and self-discipline. Beginning one habit can carry over into other areas of your life, eating well, exercising, meditation etc. Gotta start somewhere right?

4. Practicing Gratitude

We live in an amazingly negative culture. The media tells us that we need more and more, because what we have isn’t good enough. Including gratitude notes in your journal reminds you of all of the great things you have right now. This practice of intentionally looking at the blessings in your life puts your brain on a positive cycle, as the brain struggles to focus on the positive and the negative at the same time. So use journaling to retrain your brain to thought of gratitude, and see if that doesn’t make a difference in your attitude!

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Simple Tips to Loving People No Matter How Difficult

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We all have those people in our lives. The ones who are just really difficult to love. They might have an annoying habit that grates our nerves. Or maybe they have a negative attitude all the time, or are never respectful of our time or space. Whatever reason you have for considering that person difficult, here are a few tips on how to love them anyway.

Remember your own faults

None of us like to admit that we are probably difficult to love in some way. Maybe we have our own annoying habits that grate on other people’s nerves. We all have our unloveable moments, so when you are in that situation with your difficult person, take a breath and remember that you have your own moments of difficulty.

Try to understand their back story

Everyone has a back story, no one became who they are today overnight. If your difficult person isn’t all that close to you, try to find out where they come from. Did they have a difficult childhood? Did they just go through a painful divorce? Do they suffer from a mental health condition? Knowing more about what you are dealing with can help you navigate the best way to love that person, through the difficulty.

Speak up

Sometimes people do things that annoy us, and they never know about it, because we are too polite to say anything. If someone is doing something that is disrespectful or annoying, say something. It doesn’t have to be a fight, you can lovingly say “Listen, I love spending time with you, and I need you to know that when you do ______________ (insert annoying thing here) it really makes me feel disrespected”.

Make a choice

This sounds so simple, but often we don’t make the choice to love someone. We let them earn love, by being beneficial to us in some way, however love shouldn’t have to be earned. It is a gift best freely given. So in those moments of difficulty, take a moment and decide to love them anyway. Think about it, you want to be loved through your difficulty, so choose to love your difficult person through all the mess.

6 Effective Steps To Developing Discipline

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This article was originally published by the author on everydaypowerblog.com

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments”- Jim Rohn

 

You promised yourself, everything will change.

 

You will get up early in the morning for a two mile run 3 times a week.

 

Today like every other day since you made that decision, the best you could do is stretch to hit the snooze button.

 

You have read all the books on goal setting. You have even spent time online watching video clips on the subject.

However your reality is that every year the same goals seem to top your list.

You may have mastered how to set goals, but setting goals is one thing,  accomplishing them is another.

 

“It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through”- Zig Ziglar

 

Discipline is an attribute anyone can develop and is key to accomplishing goals.

If you are wondering how to develop discipline, then you are reading the right article.

 

The tips below describes how to develop discipline.

 

  1. Have a clear vision:

 

You want to develop discipline but discipline for what?

 

You need clarity on what you want to develop discipline for.  Discipline to accomplish a specific goal, discipline to turn your life around.

 

For instance, you may be tired of how you look and desire to lose some weight. Create a vision of your desired weight before you.

This simple step creates the energy you need to get started. List the steps needed to achieve your desired weight.

 

Looking through the steps you have, you know what you need to be disciplined about.  Now that you are motivated to get started how do you stay motivated?  

2. Keep Why You Want To Accomplish The Goal in Mind:

 

Ask yourself why you want to accomplish the goal, make a list. This will keep you motivated enough to stay with your routine even when it is very difficult.

 

Someone trying to lose weight, may think about about the health issues that can be avoided by losing weight.   Also, the effects  of losing weight on lifestyle, energy levels and activities that can be engaged in can be motivating.

3.Never Allow Your Feelings To Rule:

 

Be determined to be in charge no matter what. If you go by how you feel you will never get anything done. So don’t allow your feelings to rule.

On mornings that you do not feel like getting up for your morning workout.

 

Let your body know who is in charge and get up to get things done anyway.

Initially this may be tough but you will find out it gets easier with every passing day

4. Change What You Give Attention To:

What you feed your mind with matters.

Carefully look through what you read or watch and remove items that does not add value to your goals.

If you are trying to stay away from certain foods then don’t spend most of your day watching video clips describing different ways to prepare such foods.

Stay informed and learn different ways to accomplish what you desire in a shorter time.

5. Develop a new habit:

It is often said that if you can commit to doing something for 21 days you can develop a new habit.

Look to develop habits that add value to you, in the process you are developing discipline as well. Developing an habit takes consistently doing a particular activity day after day.

Simple habits such as planning your day ahead and staying with the plan can be done by anyone who can commit to it.  

6. Stay Focused:

No matter what you are trying to accomplish there will be difficult days.

It is important to stay focused and committed to your goals.  Developing discipline is not an exception. If you are committed to it, you can accomplish it. Anytime you feel like giving up, remember why you started the journey in the first place.

Think through your life and decide to step things up by enhancing your productivity in strategic ways.

Remember this:

“Discipline is based on pride, on meticulous attention to details, and on mutual respect and confidence. Discipline must be a habit so ingrained that it is stronger than the excitement of the goal or the fear of failure”-. Gary Ryan Blair

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Success is relative. Whatever your definition of success is, change your life by changing the way you think.

Check this short video clip by Brendon Burchard on success.