Yearly Archives: 2016

Valuable Tips On Building Strong Relationships

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Imagine two people who are attracted to one another.

They spend so much time talking to each other and making each other laugh. The attraction matures into love, and continues to grow.

During the early days of any relationship, couples spend a lot of TIME together. As a result the relationship blooms and flourishes. Spending time with someone may help you discover you are not a good fit for each other.

Whatever you do to attain a level of success in any area of life should be continued to maintain the success you enjoy.

Life gets busy, especially when couples start raising a family or  job schedule get really demanding.  Making time for one another now becomes something you consciously do.

A relationship that is not nurtured will wither away.

Spending time together is important but is that it?

No, there are so many tips to building strong relationships but  I choose to summarize building strong relationship with this analogy.

If you want to rise through the ranks and climb to the top of the career ladder what do you do?

You work hard, you invest in yourself to improve your productivity, you put a lot of effort into your career to make it a success. Exactly the same principle applies to building relationships. Strong relationships are cultivated by people who consciously invest time and effort in their relationships to make it what they want to be.

Make an effort to understand the other person and look for ways to be a blessing to him/her. Don’t always think about what you stand to gain, look for ways to give and add value to the other person’s life. Love always win, choose to take the high road of love and forgiveness.

You may have had a bad experience in life and you hate yourself for it. No matter how much love is shown to you, you have a difficulty in accepting the love.  This may have been causing problems in your relationship but you know what? That can change. You can learn to love yourself again.


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4 Important Tips For Understanding People

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We all have those people in our lives. The ones who are just really difficult to love. They might have an annoying habit that grates our nerves. Or maybe they have a negative attitude all the time, or are never respectful of our time or space. Whatever reason you have for considering that person difficult, here are a few tips on how to love them anyway.

Remember your own faults

None of us like to admit that we are probably difficult to love in some way. Maybe we have our own annoying habits that gets on other people’s nerves. We all have our “unloveable ” moments, so when you are in that situation with your difficult person, take a breath and remember that you have your own moments of difficulty.

Try to understand their back story

Everyone has a back story, no one became who they are today overnight. If your difficult person isn’t all that close to you, try to find out where they come from. Did they have a difficult childhood? Did they just go through a painful divorce? Do they suffer from a mental health condition? Knowing more about what you are dealing with can help you navigate the best way to love that person, through the difficulty.

Speak up

Sometimes people do things that annoy us, and they never know about it, because we are too polite to say anything. If someone is doing something that is disrespectful or annoying, say something. It doesn’t have to be a fight, you can lovingly say “Listen, I love spending time with you, and I need you to know that when you do ______________ (insert annoying thing here) it really makes me feel disrespected”.

Make a choice

This sounds so simple, but often we don’t make the choice to love someone. We let them earn love, by being beneficial to us in some way, however love shouldn’t have to be earned. It is a gift best freely given. So in those moments of difficulty, take a moment and decide to love them anyway. Think about it, you want to be loved through your difficulty, so choose to love your difficult person through all the mess.

3 Powerful Truths About Words

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Something dropped on your toe, you cussed out loud.

You seem to enjoy the way people around you get amused when you cuss or say something negative.

Complaining and whining about your problems seem to draw sympathy from others and you really cannot imagine what you can do differently.

Words, they are just words right? They really do not affect anything? Do they? You really can say anything you want whenever you want. There are absolutely no consequences whatsoever? Right? WRONG!

Just in case you miss my response the first time. Your words are powerful, they shape your world around you.

  1. Your words are like dynamite:   Think about it, there are some people you know, they always complain about something. Every single time you see them they have something to complain about. They never seem to run short of things to complain about. Have you ever wondered why? It is simple, they have created their world by their words. Just as dynamite can disrupt or rearrange what we see in a short time. Your words are powerful and have the potential to shape your life
  2. Change your words, change your life: if you do not like what you see around you, check the way you think about the situation. Your thoughts shape the words you speak, your words shape your reality. Sit down, write down what you desire and start working towards it. Let your words agree with what you believe, declare what you desire regularly.
  3. Your words can make you attractive or otherwise: people can be attracted to you by simply listening to you. Every time you speak, they are uplifted and encouraged, they simply want to be around you or call you. Think about it, will you want to be around a person that discourage you or dampen your morale? No one will.

Your words are powerful, they do not only shape your world but can attract people to you. Carefully think about your words before you speak. Are you adding value to people around you?

The next time you are tempted to complain or cuss . Think carefully about what you are about to say. If those words were to come true, will you be happy and content? Or will it be the exact opposite?


Let your words work for you not against you.




Lessons From 2016 Election


Depending on which candidate you supported in this election cycle you will either wake up excited this morning (day after election) or wake up to face the disappointment that comes with your candidate losing the election.

Both feelings are quite familiar to me, in the past several years I have watched some of the candidates I strongly support elected into office while some lose their election bid.

The election this year was like no other  I have  witnessed before.

It is unique and also rich with life lessons.

I will like to share some of the lessons I learnt for this election season with you. I hope it inspires you to dream big and energize you never to give up.

1. Dare to dream big, work hard towards it :

Both presidential candidates (Hilary Clinton and Donald Trump) are big dreamers.

Mr Trump had never run for public office before and it was unthinkable that he would even consider running for the highest office in the land but he did.

Most politicians start their careers on the local or state level. He skipped all the steps and just decided to run for the highest political office.

He was described by his family as a big dreamer who does not shy away from challenges.

Sec. Clinton has been passionate about serving from a very young age. For over 30 years, she relentlessly followed her dreams defying all odds .

It is big for a woman to aspire to become the leader of the free world, she did and became the first female presidential nominee of a major political party

I remember listening to her concession speech 8 years ago. She said ” even though we did not break the glass ceiling this time, we left millions of crack in it. The use of “this time” in her speech stood out to me. It told me she was coming back again and she did.

These two unconventional big dreamers, did not only dream big but they worked hard for it and that’s why the entire world is talking about them today.

2. Never Give Up.

Mr Trump had so much stacked up against him but I have never seen anyone more resilient than him. He kept saying he will win this election even when it was almost laughable to think so.

His campaign kept coming up with different strategies to wining the electoral votes against all odds.

When it was almost impossible for him to win the race, Mr Trump kept saying  he will win this election.

He repeatedly described how he will be taking over some states traditionally won by his opponents.

That was exactly what happened.

The world was shocked!

People called it a miracle but I saw the power of believing a thing in your heart and repeatedly saying with your mouth even when its  least likely.

While there so many things to learn from this election cycle. Two key lessons here are:  the importance of dreaming big ; the power of believing a thing in your heart and saying it with mouth.

If these people can put principles to work for them, you can too.

There is so much potential within you.

Take the limits off and dare to dream big.

Don’t just dream big, work hard to make your dream a reality.

You are unstoppable!



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