Monthly Archives: October 2015

Be Yourself Boldly!

You are a success

The greatest place to be in life is to have peace inside and be content with who you are. Finding out your great worth and realizing there is not another YOU, is such a freeing discovery.

Embracing your uniqueness, rather than focusing on your flaws can set you on a course for positive living. Not liking who you are and always comparing yourself to others is a miserable way to live. Of course we all have areas in our lives we need to refine and work on, but like yourself in the process and don’t be so hard on yourself.

You know, God made you exactly the way He wanted you to be and likes you just the way you are…actually, He loves you just the way you are! My favorite scripture is Psalm 139:13-14 (NLT), “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.” How can you not feel special after reading that?! There’s no one like you — you are one of a kind! You are marvelously made! I heard someone once say, “God don’t make no junk!” You are valuable and need to grab hold of that truth, because the truth will set you free!

Become aware of the way you think and speak about yourself, and if it’s not kind…change it. If you are struggling with poor self image, like I did for many years, begin to speak positive affirmations over your life. You believe your words more than any other person, so I encourage you to make a list of all your good traits, strengths, abilities, and talents and go over them:

“I am beautiful.” “I am smart.” “I am caring.” “I am strong.” “I am a hard worker.” And the list goes on and on.

Whatever negative words have been spoken over you by others or yourself, release them and let them go today – never to have a hold on you again!

Be free to be you and be happy being you! When you’re content and at peace with who you are, others are drawn to you. No one wants to be around someone who is negative and constantly down on themselves. Be a light wherever you go…people follow light!

I encourage you to go look in the mirror today and say, “YOU ARE AWESOME and I LOVE YOU!” You may feel silly doing it, but mean it when you say it…and smile!

There’s a whole world out there waiting for your greatness — now go shine!

Editor’s note: This post was originally posted on Inspiring Nuggets in August and selected to be re-blogged today.

 

 

3 Simple Truths Everyone Should Know About Words.

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Something dropped on your toe, you cussed out loud.

You seem to enjoy the way people around you get amused when you cuss or say something negative.

Complaining and whining about your problems seem to draw sympathy from others and you really cannot imagine what you can do differently.

Words, they are just words right? They really do not affect anything? Do they? You really can say anything you want whenever you want. There are absolutely no consequences whatsoever? Right? WRONG!

Just in case you miss my response the first time. Your words are powerful, they shape your world around you.

  1. Your words are like dynamite:   Think about it, there are some people you know, they always complain about something. Every single time you see them they have something to complain about. They never seem to run short of things to complain about. Have you ever wondered why? It is simple, they have created their world by their words. Just as dynamite can disrupt or rearrange what we see in a short time. Your words are powerful and have the potential to shape your life
  2. Change your words, change your life: if you do not like what you see around you, check the way you think about the situation. Your thoughts shape the words you speak, your words shape your reality. Sit down, write down what you desire and start working towards it. Let your words agree with what you believe, declare what you desire regularly.
  3. Your words can make you attractive or otherwise: people can be attracted to you by simply listening to you. Every time you speak, they are uplifted and encouraged, they simply want to be around you or call you. Think about it, will you want to be around a person that discourage you or dampen your morale? No one will.

Your words are powerful, they do not only shape your world but can attract people to you. Carefully think about your words before you speak. Are you adding value to people around you?

The next time you are tempted to complain, cuss or whine. Think carefully about what you are about to say. If those words were to come true, will you be happy and content? Or will it be the exact opposite? Make it a great week!

 

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Define Your Friendships.

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Every one should seek to have three individuals in his life: a Paul, a Barnabas, and a Timothy.

A Paul is an older man who is willing to mentor you, to build into your life. Not someone who’s smarter or more gifted than you, but somebody who’s been down the road. Somebody willing to share his strengths and weaknesses–everything he’s learned in the laboratory of life. Somebody whose faith you’ll want to imitate.

A Barnabas is a soul brother, somebody who loves you but is not impressed by you. Somebody to whom you can be accountable. Somebody who’s willing to keep you honest, who’s willing to say, “Hey, man, you’re neglecting your wife, and don’t give me any guff!”

A Timothy is a younger man into whose life you are building. For a model, read 1 and 2 Timothy. Here was Paul, the quintessential mentor, building into the life of his protegé–affirming, encouraging, teaching, correcting, directing, praying.

Do you have these three guys or ladies in your life?

(Howard Hendricks, professor at Dallas Theological Seminary. Men of Integrity, Vol. 1, no. 1.)

Isn’t it true in our day, that we are too quick to call people friends?

Friendship is an important subject. We all can relate to it, but far too many don’t understand it. A misunderstanding is bound to happen when we fail to clearly define our friendships. Some of us have already paid that price.

There is a difference between an acquaintance and a friend.

When we fail to define our friendships, others will eventually get hurt, feel rejected, and even become alienated. Have you ever heard the words, “I thought he was my friend”? Perhaps you have said those very words. Well, could the problem be that you have not defined what kind of friendships you have?

Friendship can be defined on three (3) levels:

Level One: Friendship of Pleasure: “We have fun times together”

Birthday parties, weddings, take vacations together. Here we do things together for the mere purpose of having fun.

We don’t necessarily call one another when we have needs.

Level Two: Friendship of Utility: “We help each other in times of need”

You need a ride to a place, borrow or lend money, a business partner, you need a text-book to borrow, you need someone to baby-sit your children for the weekend.

The people that we often remember only when we need help, are friends of utility. We reintroduce them into our lives when we have a need.

Level Three: Friendship of Character: “We build each other up for life”

This is the highest level of friendship. This is a true friend.

True friends can speak into our lives. They are not standing on the fringes afraid that we will be offended by what they have to say to us. If you cannot speak into or be spoken into without the fear of alienation, you do not have a true friendship.

Too much diplomacy and politeness may be an indication of pretense.

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. — Proverbs 27:6 (NIV)

Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.– Proverbs 27:17

Really stop and think about it; from our definitions above, we can see that two-thirds (or 67%) of the people we call friends are really acquaintances. It takes more work and commitment to have “friends of character.” It can literally wear you out if you attempt to have too many people speaking into your life.

Therefore it is foolish to have too many “real” friends. Why? You must qualify those who can speak into your life. Acquaintances? a dime a dozen. But true friends require caution.

Where most problems arise is when you or I consider someone to be a “true friend” or friend of character, but he or she considers us to be a friend of pleasure or utility. Each person brings with him or her a different set of expectations. By no means am I suggesting that we go up to someone and ask, “are you a true friend or an acquaintance?” That would be too rigid. I think with time we will know.

It is possible for someone to start out as an acquaintance and become a true friend for life. Give it time!

Finish Strong!

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I came back home this morning after my morning run to hear my husband playing a song.

I really didn’t pay attention at first but he had set the song to automatically replay .  I actually could not help catching the lyrics.

The chorus of the song repeated “finish strong, you have all it takes to finish strong”. As I sit done to write, the music and words of the songs still plays repeatedly in my mind.

As we enter the final quarter of the year, decide to finish the year strong.

Really, what does the phrase finish strong mean to you? Think about any area of your life, finances, relationship , career, the list could go on.

What are the goals you have set for yourself in those areas?

How close are you to accomplishing the goals you have not accomplished?  What can you do to accomplish them before the year ends?

Take some time to create a road-map to accomplish those goals. Some  may require  doubling  up on your efforts. Others may require stepping back and analyzing the situation to determine what should be done differently.

If you think you are so far away from where you want to be, don’t be discouraged.  Be assured that  you have all it takes to get things done. Simply decide not to give up. Where you are in life now is as a result  of a series of decisions and actions you have taken till now. If you do not like where you are change. Decide to change and start moving in the direction you desire.

Well, if you are wondering I absolutely have no idea how to move in the direction I desire, where do I start?

It is as simple as changing your daily routines.  If you spend four hours every evening flipping TV channels or chatting on social media. You may have the answer to why you do not have energy to get up early and get to work on time. Maybe you need to cut  two hours off the TV time and go to bed early.  It’s that simple!

Your time is yours to spend as you choose, my point is the first step to changing your reality is changing your routine. This might entail making sacrifices, whatever it takes purpose to finish 2015 strong.  Give it all you’ve got! Finish Strong!

 

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