Monthly Archives: March 2015

Daily Routines?

Getting from where you are today to where you want to be takes determination and consistently doing the “right things”. This short video by Brian Tracy is simply motivational, take a few minutes to listen.

Desire More!

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I was driving to work yesterday morning, decided to get a warm drink , so I drove into Starbucks to join a line of other drivers that wanted to start their day with a cup of coffee. While I waited at the drive-through for my turn, I reflected on the simple chain of events that led to driving up to the coffee store that morning. I had a desire for a warm drink, I thought of where I could get it, I thought of the closet location to me and drove towards it. This simple activity is something we all can relate to because we repeat this everyday without thinking about it.

To achieve anything in life, there has to be a desire, a desire for a new lifestyle, a new job/career, better income, greater influence. Whatever it is, a desire should be born in you before anything can be accomplished. Even if you think you have  accomplished all your life goals, desire more! Desire to be the best you can possibly be!

My goal with this post is to encourage you to desire more, stretch yourself . Don’t allow anything or anyone to limit you. Free yourself to think and dream, the possibilities are endless.

Let everyday move you closer to your dream.

Adopting Our Kids- A Dream Come True

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By Renee Ransom

My husband and I met on a playground of Xi’an International School in Shaanxi, China. From our first date, we discussed our dreams for our lives, and adoption was something we both wanted. For us, having biological children was not in the cards’ or something that we wanted. We knew there are millions of kids without parents, and we could not justify bringing more into the world while many grew up in less than ideal situations.

My husband and I are different from many adoptive families, in that we do not believe adoption is a ministry, or should be seen that way. Ministry to orphans is sponsoring kids, ministering to orphans, building and donating to orphanages, helping to fund adoptions, etc. Adoption, however, is building a family and taking the good with the bad. It’s not something you can escape from, or put down when it gets hard. And it’s definitely not a (ministry) project! For us, adoption was simply the way we chose to build our family. I am happy to have the opportunity to share with you our adoption experience. If adopting kids is also your dream, I hope you find these tips from our story useful.

1. Get familiar with the process: After we had been married for two years (the minimum requirement for adoption from most countries) we chose an agency, and began to see where we could adopt from. At that point in time, there were really only two countries open to us, and we chose Ethiopia. It fits best with our needs, and with the vision we had for our family.

2. Be patient: Patience is quality should either have before you begin the process or develop during the process. This is because you will submit your application, and wait. You might do the home study, and wait. You might also fill out immigration paperwork, and wait. In our own case we did a lot of waiting. Then finally we received a call, and were told there was a sibling group waiting for us. We opened the email to see our kids, two handsome, but extremely malnourished and sad looking boys. We accepted the match, then waited some more. We submitted the initial paperwork in June of 2008, and in October of 2009 we flew to Ethiopia and we became a family of four!

3. Believe for the best: Many people have heard horror stories about adoption, and the problems people have with the kids—the attachment, the hurt, the trauma from their life. We were very fortunate that we did not see any of these. We bonded immediately with our children, and they to us. We did not see any lingering effects from those things. We even had more than one Social Worker comment that they had never seen kids bond to their adoptive parents the way ours did. I know that’s not because of us, but because God was behind this entire adoption, and He knew the kids that we would need.

4. Be flexible: About a year after our adoption of our boys was complete, we realized our family was not quite done. By this time, we were back living overseas, and the process was a little different. More trips to the Embassy, and dealing with different departments of the US and Chinese and Ethiopian Governments. But the result was the same, a perfect little girl that completed our family. Once again, we had a great experience, and did not see any of the usual adoption issues. Our family is now complete, and we are thankful God allowed us to build our family this way!

5. Be committed: I don’t want this to look like adoption is always perfect. We are a trans-racial family, and that has its own challenges. But just like no family is perfect, we work together and deal with the challenges as they arise. We are a family, not related by blood, but by something stronger. We are bound together by choice, by a decision to open our hearts and build our family. We are truly thankful for the lovely family we are blessed with.

If adoption is a desire of your heart as well, believe you can, be patient, persevere and you will see your dreams come true.

Renee Ransom is a native of Texas, who makes her home in China. She is a married to her wonderful husband Josh, and is the mom to three amazing kids. She loves to travel, enjoys coffee, butterfingers, and an occasional carrot!

Baby Steps or Giant Steps.. Go for Your Dreams!

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I still remember lying in bed one morning watching my two year old son stare out of the window with rapt attention. It was one of the most reflective times of my life as I ponder on parenting and the responsibilities that come with it. My husband and I wanted to start a family right after we got married, neither of knew what that entailed..though we thought we did. I grew up in a close knit family and I had a wonderful time babysitting my younger sibling, and cousins. I never thought much of raising family at all, after all, I grew up taking care of younger ones. Naively, while I was still single, I had planned my life goals and dreams without giving much consideration to raising a family, even though I desired one.

That morning, I critically accessed my life goals in the light where I was in my life. At the time I was setting my life goals, I was single, now things have changed and I had to face that. Milestones I set for my self had to change, priorities had to shift and I simply had to draw a completely different picture. That was six years ago and I am truly thankful, I embraced the change I made. I hope you find the list below helpful.

1. What is your dream for your life? It is important to get a clear picture of what you want your life to look like. For so long, I had focused solely on my career and success for me was defined by how much success I had on my job. Later, specifically after I started a family, I saw a bigger picture and started thinking more in terms of a complete me. I sat down and wrote what I desired for myself as person (physical, emotional and spiritual), as a wife, a mom, a professional, the list went on.

2. Establish practical routines: How do you accomplish the dream you have? One practical approach is by establishing a routine of activities you could carry out on a daily basis to move you towards your dream. For example you desire to read a book every week. Instead of looking for a day when you can seat down for 3 or 4 hours to read the entire book, why not read 10 pages of the book a day. Routines vary from person to person but it is important to ensure that everyday we incorporate activities in our schedule that move us closer to our dreams.

3. Set realistic milestones: Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, set milestones that are realistic for you. For example loosing 10 lbs a week might be realistic goal for your girlfriend but it might be a stretch for you. Stay with what works for you.

Baby steps or giant steps, the size of the steps does not really matter, the most important thing is that everyday moves you closer to your dreams.