2 Ways To know You Should Move On…
Every morning after dropping my boys in school, I grab a cup of coffee/tea and have my “thinking time” (my personal reflective time).
One thing I have thought about a lot lately is knowing when to move on.
Lately, I have found myself discussing with people who seem to be stuck.
Actually someone put it this way, “Bola, I feel trapped…”.
Another said to me ” I just broke up from this relationship, it was quite painful, I don’t know if I should move on or wait to see…. I really desire to get married”
While each scenario is different, some feel dissatisfaction with their relationships, others with their careers.
For you it might not be any of these, it might just be a painful experience that you cannot seem to move past.
Whatever the situation is, I hope the tips below will give you strong enough reasons to move on.
1. You gave it your best but it still did not work out: I know a lot of times when people break up from relationships, it is quite painful.
I remember speaking to a lady recently who is in her thirties and really desires to get married.
She described how painful it was when she broke up with fiance. She described her dreams and ended with the question, ” I don’t know if I should just move on or hope things will change?”
When it comes to the will of someone else, things are a little bit different. You are not sure if the other person has moved on after the break-up or not. You really do not want to wait indefinitely. That will not make sense will it?
If you give something your best and it ends in a painful breakup. Don’t stay in that pain, keep your eyes on the dream you have and move towards it.
It might be a job, you have worked so hard and you were laid off. There is always something to learn from it. There are lessons hidden in those experiences, find them out and learn from it.
Never allow your self to be overwhelmed by pain or regret. Choose to move on.
2. You feel dissatisfied and unfulfilled: Have you ever met people with 6 figure incomes that hate their job?
They literally do not look forward to the beginning of a new work week.
You wonder how people who have jobs many wish for feel so unfulfilled and unhappy.
The simple truth is that they are not fulfilling their purpose. When you are fulfilling your purpose, there is a huge sense of satisfaction even if you are not paid a dime for it.
There is a way around moving on in this type of situation. Without putting pressure on yourself, identify what you really want to do. What do you really want to do if money was not a factor. Start doing it in your spare time. As you gain confidence and traction, find out how you can get compensated for it.
Can you imagine living your dreams and getting paid for it? It is possible.
Everyone should look forward to the beginning of every week or day. If you are not. Don’t continue to live that way, map out a plan to move on.
Do you have signals that have helped you in the past to know when to move on? Share with us. I look forward to reading and responding to your comments.