Tips To A Happier You
Have you ever being in a place where you think, when a dream comes true then I will be happy.
For you it could be when I get married I will be happy.
Then you get married, and you start saying when I hold my baby in my arms I will be so happy.
The baby comes, then you move on to, when the baby grows and I do not have to wake up so frequently in the middle of the night I will be happy…
I could go on and on but my goal is to point something out. If you look at this analogy you will notice a very important phrase “I will”.
1. Happiness is a choice:
If you can be happy when a particular desire comes true, you can choose to be happy now. Think about traveling on a journey to your favorite destination with your kids.
Most kids will ask their parents repeatedly ” are we there yet?”
They are eager to get to their destination, based on that focus cannot enjoy the journey to their destination.
Most adults however, take in the scenery, appreciate the quality time spent together. Truly enjoying the journey to the desired destination. The journey may be bumpy, but the choice to be happy or not is still yours.
Think about a nursing mother…
Waking up to nurse in the middle of the night, handling several demands that comes with taking care of a young one.
She could either enjoy the special bonding time with the young one and be happy for the many blessings that comes with it or simply complain, eagerly waiting for the child to grow.
Happiness is a choice, a choice you alone can make.
True happiness is… to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future. –
Lucius Annaeus Seneca
2. Be The One Making The Call
Don’t give people the opportunity to decide when you are happy.
Be the one making the call on how you feel.
Think about this popular saying for a second ” ..you can’t stop a bird from flying over your head but you can prevent in from making a nest there” .
In the same vein, you can’t control what people will say or how they will behave but you can control how it affects you.
Spend time discovering what works best for you. The bottom-line can be summarized in this short quote.
If you want to be happy, be. -Leo Tolstoy
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